The Decision Clinic
Member Since: 13th Apr 2014
Wellbeing Trainer, HR professional & Therapist The Decision Clinic training & wellbeing
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13th Apr 2014
It might be worth asking if she feels up to a home visit or in a neutral place to discuss her stressors. Often employees will be considering leaving to remove themselves from the situation, if they raise this then you could explore alternative options for them. If your company has an eap this could help for suggest she speaks to the gp for some therapy. Often waiting times are too long and you might decide you could help them and the line manage resolve issues more quickly if you organise a private therapist to help them deal with stress, get back to work or suitable alternative and performing as well as possible.
13th Apr 2014
It is sad to say that in many work and non work places there will be different characters that make it difficult for each other. Sometimes there is an option to change the situation, and if that is the case and it has positive outcomes then great. If not then to prevent negative effects to ourselves an option always available to us is to change our response to someone's behaviour or a situation.
i work with people who make these choices, and if they decide on the latter they realise there are lots of options. Some decide to change their response and stay, others decide they will use it as an opportunity to look for a new role, but remember they are no guarantees where you go will definitely be better, so the important thing is whether you decide to stay or go you look at the positive reasons why it is right for you, rather than reasons why you don't want to be or do something. This helps you to start building your motivation and confidence again.
13th Apr 2014
While you are feeling stressed, you are going to perceive the world around you including work as more dangerous and threatening. As a HR professional and therapist a useful technique is whatever you are worrying about, to half it, half it again and then half it one more time and this is more likely going to be a more realistic outcome. In the first instance it is probably worth you choosing a time when you feel most secure, for example after breakfast or before lunch, whatever time of day is right for you, then calling your HR representative.
Your HR contact will be able to talk to you about the company policy regarding sick pay, absence policy and help you work with your line manager if appropriate to resolve your workplace stress, as they have a duty of care in this area. In the meantime the GP may be able to refer to to some counselling if appropriate or there may be alternative routes you may want to explore. I hope you feel more yourself again soon.