Member Since: 2nd Mar 2008
HR, employment law & training consultant for the Not-For-Profit sector
I am a fully qualified HR and training professional with over 18 years’ post-graduate experience. I am a Fellow Member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development, a qualified Specialist Employment Law Paralegal , & a registered Investors In People Specialist. I have worked in a variety of industries , and now focus mainly in the non-profit sector. I particularly specialise in start-up HR functions for SMEs, including writing all required staffing policies and procedures and staff handbooks, and designing & delivering training for line management and staff on key issues, business & personal effectiveness skills. I'm a regular guest speaker for the CIPD, City Business Library's seminar programme & other organisations, & frequently featured on TV, radio & the press as an HR & employment law expert.
HR Consultant Tara Daynes
1st Jun 2012
I appreciate the feedback, cheers! I'm sure I've had similar nicknames, just not to my face :o) Still, at least that means we're making an impact!
13th Sep 2011
Thanks for your comment! Sorry to hear about your colleague - a very familiar tale though. If you look presentable at work there is nothing wrong with having your own distinctive style or flair - I once knew a gentleman who wore smart suits but always with wacky ties, & a lady who always wore smart suits but with sparkly tops underneath! Anyway, good luck with your outfit tomorrow, & have fun with it - it could change how you feel, give you a whole new lease of life & get you noticed more at work (in a good way!)
6th Sep 2011
Just read a really excellent book on this subject 'The Devil you Know - Looking out for the psycho in your life' by psychologist Kerry Daynes & journalist Jessica Fellowes http://www.facebook.com/psychoinyourlife It's a great read - very accessible & probably resonates with anyone who's had a psycho boss (or friend or partner etc.) Apparently statistically there are more psychopaths in the business population than in the criminal population!
2nd Aug 2011
Very helpful, thanks Jeremy!
30th Jun 2011
Yes, asserting yourslef in these situations is like knitting - knowing the theory of how to do it is one thing, but it's much harder to put into practice! But also like knitting, the more you practice the better you get & the more your confidence increases. And if all else fails & you are in fact being bullied, then that could be the time to take more formal action - whether that is bringing in HR/more senior reinforcements, using internal or external mediation, putting in a formal grievance or tribunal claim etc. I would always say though that doing nothing isn't an option, since in my experience the problem rarely goes away - it just gets worse if Alpha People think they can get away with this behaviour!
28th Jun 2011
I agree with you that it is often better to tackle Alpha People one-to-one - also because it is often harder for them to successfully undermine or belittle you without an audience!
Just to clarify re your point 2 - my suggestion was of a way to word a 'No' response, rather than a suggestion of an action to take, & it wasn't specifically relating to putting off a meeting. It simply refers to any situation where someone is making demands on your time that you can't easily accommodate, whether it's to undertake a work task or whatever else, & how to offer an alternative suggestion rather than just bluntly saying 'No'. Hope this makes it a bit clearer!
28th Jun 2011
The webinar sounds very interesting - I will mention it on my Twitter/Facebook/LinkedIn profiles!
20th Jun 2011
Thanks Mark - you're quite right & this is one of the many aspects of 'putting this into practice' that I cover in my workshop. The above is an overview of the strategic - ie bigger picture - steps at an organisational level, that a business could include as part of their overall TLD strategy. The nuts & bolts of making this work at a team & individual level are far more detailed, & would include the responsibilities of both the line manager & the learner at both the preparation stage & the follow-up stage.